Category: Personal Thoughts

Chronicle of a hospital visit in Buenos Aires

It was a little after midnight and we’d just finished a great dinner of Argentinian steak in Buenos Aires.  We were walking to a bar to have some after dinner drinks when all the sudden, my friend missteps on the broken sidewalk.  He goes tumbling to the ground.  We’re all laughing, including my friend who’s just fallen over.  He tries to get up, but quickly realizes there’s something wrong.  His arm is hanging there and he can’t move it.  Luckily, someone in our group had some medical experience and evaluated the situation and told us that we should go to the hospital.

We hail a cab and the cheerful driver told us he’d take us to the closest hospital.  He regails us with tales about how dislocated shoulders are somewhat common in Argentina because polo is a popular sport.  He doesn’t seem to concerned about my friend’s pain as we zoom around Buenos Aires’ curvy and somewhat bumpy streets.

We arrive to a run down, but very functional public hospital to find about 20 people sleeping outside the front door.  Unlike US hospitals, there is no long queue.  As we enter, I immediately speak to the person at the door who takes my friend’s information and tells us to wait in the first patient room.  The room is spacious, dimly lit, and filled with old style medical equiptment.  There were used medical supplies that hadn’t been thrown out, open razor blades on the counter and there didn’t seem to be much organization.

Hospital staff workers kept entering and exiting and we quickly realized that our room doubles as a supply closet.  A cheerful physicians assistant arrives and asks us what happened.  He does a few tests, then prescribes an xray.   My friends and I carry/drag our friend to the xray room, which uses machines that look like they were from the 80s.  My friend is unable to pose correctly because he is in too much pain and the ornery orderly gives up petulantely after two tries.  I try to convince her to try once more, but she refuses.

We’re sent back to our room and the cheerful assistant comes back and is not pleased that the xrays hadn’t worked.  He tells us he’s going to try to pop the shoulder back in.  He tells us to leave the room, then tries for 15 painful minutes.  The waiting room is dingy, has hardly any chairs and is filled with the typical people you’d see in any emergency room around the world.  There are the drunk/drugged out kids, elderly chronic care patients, car accident victims and their friends and family.  Everyone gets a number fairly quickly, but then has to wait for their care.

After awhile, the PA invites me back into the room, and asks me to help.  He rolls up a bedsheet, puts it under my friend’s arm, then tells me to pull as hard as I can while he pulls on my friends arm in the other direction.  We’re pulling REALLY hard, to the point where if I let go, the physicians assistant would go flying into the medical supplies closet.  I never thought I’d get to be a part of the medical treatment, but here I am, in Buenos Aires, attempting to help reinsert a shoulder into a socket.

After 20 minutes, we’re both exhausted.  The PA says he is going to find help and returns with reinforcements: two burly orderlies.   I’m sent out of the room and the three of them manhandle his arm.  Nothing’s working and my friend’s in pain.  The hospital staff is getting more frustrated by the minute.  Without saying anything, the orderly gives my friend a shot in his back to knock him out.

After he was out, the three orderlies spend the next hour twisting, pushing, pulling, cursing and smashing.  A friend and I are sitting outside of the room the entire time and keep hearing loud screams from the room, sometimes from our friend, other times from the frustrated orderlies.  It goes on forever.  Finally, the shoulder is back in its socket

Finally, his arm is back, but he’s completly knocked out.  The orderlies tell us to hang out in the room and 10 minutes later, our friend will wake up and will need an xray.  An hour later, he is still completely out.   Nobody comes to check on us, nobody gives us any info when we ask.  After an hour and a half, we decide to take matters into our own hands and attempt wake him up.  He is in a deep sleep.

We put both of our cell phone alarms next to his ear and splash water on his face.  Nothing.  We try again.  This time some rumblings, but mostly incoherant ramblings from the sedative and pain killer.  We decide to wait another 20 minutes.  We use our same tactics again and this time are able to rouse our friend.  We carry him to the xray room where the sullen tech takes xrays while I hold my unsteady friend up to make sure he doesn’t pass out and dislocated something new.  We search for an hour, but can’t find anyone to look at the xrays. It’s shift change and everyone is busy.

Finally, the xray tech says everything looks ok, but she doesn’t really know and that if our friend feels ok, we can leave.  There’s no organized discharge process.  We just walk out the front door with our still heavily sedated friend, xrays in hand, then find a taxi and head home.  We take the intake form with us for our records.  The hospital does not issue discharge papers or have any sort of record that we’d been there, other than my friends name at the front door.

We’d spent close to six hours in the hospital and our friend’s arm was popped back in.  We didn’t have to pay a dime.  The process was unorgainzed, the facilities dirty and a bit rundown, but in the end, they got the job done.  It was quite the contrast to the expensive, process and paperwork laden US based health care system that is terrified of being sued.  They got the job done in the end, but in a different way than I would have expected.

In the end, I wouldn’t go to that hospital for anything life threatening if I could avoid it, but I think its amazing that they can do basic medical care for free and at a decent level.  Figuring out how to merge the positives from my Buenos Aires experience with the positives from the US system could create a very compelling health care system.

Overcoming Self Deception: Taking a Step Back

We are all human, we all make mistakes and have strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has areas where they need to improve.  But they are hard to identify and its even harder to make the changes necessary to improve.  It’s hard because of self deception.  It’s part of our automatic human defense mechanism.  It’s there precisely to prevent us from getting hurt. But in order to grow and have success, humans must be able to identify the points in their lives when they’re lying to themselves.  If not, you’ll keep bouncing around in life until shit finally hits the fan and you’re forced to face facts.

Self deception is the fountain of failure, unhappiness and missed opportunities.  Identifying when you’ve been deceiving yourself and then why you’ve been doing it are the keys to improving the situation.  It’s true in all facets of life, from work to friendship to family to learning a new skill.

Let’s start with business.  One of the biggest reasons that startups do not succeed is that founders deceive themselves.  They buy into the hype, they ignore the big problems, the hardest work and don’t learn the right lessons when things go poorly.

For example, when I was running ExchangeHut, we had a very profitable tickets trading marketplace.  We wanted to expand to other universities.  We hired “campus reps,” students at other universities, to help us expand.  We gave them big incentives to push them to establish ExchangeHut on their campus.  After a semester, our most successful new campus had 100 users.  It was a complete failure.

We lied to ourselves and internally blamed our reps for being unmotiveded, not smart or entrepreneurial enough.  In reality, the reason they didn’t succeed is that we didn’t provide them with enough guidance, support and planning.  We continued with new reps the next semester and had the same results.  We wasted time and money because we let ourselves believe that it was someone else’s fault, not our own.

In the early days of Entrustet, back in March 2010, we knew we had a good product, but didn’t understand why people weren’t signing up as quickly as we thought they should.  We thought we were doing the right things: talking to the press, writing blogs and continuing to develop new features.  We kept telling ourselves that if we kept at it, we’d find success.  It took us another 6 months to realize that we were lying to ourselves.  We were not doing the hard work, we were doing the easy, fun work.  Once we made the switch and stopped deceiving ourselves, things started to turn around.

People deceive themselves all the time about all sorts of things: they say “it’s someone else fault, im doing fine,” “I shoulda gotten that promotion, not Larry” “I don’t have time to get in shape,” “I’d take that trip if only I had the time,” “Everythings going well.” Your mind will try to convince you that you’re right.

That’s why it’s hard to notice when you’re deceiving yourself.  Some clues are when things are not going well for you, but you’re not sure why.  Or success and fun aren’t coming easily.  Or when you’re acting with struggle, not with ease. When that happens to me, I try to take a step back and reevaluate.  Pull away from the situation.  Spend a bit of time alone.  Do some exercise.  Reflect on what I was deceiving myself about, and then try to push through and figure out why you were doing it.  I’ve found that the only way to make things better is to remove myself from the situation, then come back with a clear head and start to attack the problem head on again.

What do you do when you realize you’ve been deceiving yourself?  When have you realized in the past?  How do you try to make sure that it doesn’t continue to happen or so that you realize it more quickly?

Rationalizing Bad Behavior Away

Warning: This is a graphic post about the Penn State child abuse scandal.  May not be appropriate for the office.

I’ve been following the Penn State/Jerry Sandusky story really closely for the past two weeks. I’m completely shocked by how the entire story has played out.  Each day, it gets worse.  The entire episode is a complete disgrace.  If you haven’t been following, check out the NY Times coverage.

According to the grand jury indictements, Sandusky was a popular Penn State Defensive Coordinator who raped boys as young as 10.  Another Penn State assistant saw him in the act, stopped the act somehow, then reported it to his father, the university president, the athletic director, the head coach and a few others.  Sandusky “retired” to work on his charity for young boys, called The Second Mile, which he used as a platform to meet and victimize young boys.

News reports claim that multiple people knew or heard about Sandusky’s proclivities, but didn’t do anything to stop him.  The entire episode is a complete disgrace and make me physically sick to my stomach.  After having some time to reflect, I’m very interested in how each person, who could have potentially stepped in and stopped this monster, rationalized their inaction.  Or even worse, in some cases rationalized their actions to coverup these rapes.

Humans have an amazing ability to rationalize away bad behavior.  Sometimes its their own bad behavior, sometimes its the bad behavior of others.  They think “everyone’s doing it, it wasn’t THAT bad, maybe we misunderstood, oh he wont do it again, if i just keep my head down, it will blow over” or in other cases “how will the affect me, what will others think?”  It’s the same phenomenon that allows massive corporate fraud, domestic abuse and the Sandusky case.  It’s the same phenomenon that caused the Catholic Church to cover up rampant sex abuse by priests.  Taken to the extreme, its the same phenomonen that allows genocide and the Holocaust to happen.

Let’s look at the timeline.  A Penn State assistant coach, McQueary, walks into the shower and sees a 55 year old man raping a 10 year old boy.  He claims he made sure it stopped, then called his father.  His father told him to report the incident to his boss, Penn State Coach Joe Paterno.  The assistant claims he told Paterno in no uncertain terms what he saw.  Here’s how the story got watered down as it moved through the chain of command:

  • Assistant Coach McQueary: Eye witness report of anal rape of a 10 year old in a University shower
  • Head Coach Joe Paterno: something of a sexual nature.
  • Penn State Senior VP of Finance Schultz: inappropriately grabbing of the young boy’s genitals.
  • Athletic Director Curley: inappropriate conduct or horsing around.
  • University President Spanier: conduct that made someone uncomfortable.
  • Second Mile President Raykovitz: a ban on bringing kids to the locker room.

Everyone in this case did the wrong thing.  They rationalized the behavior away, or just flat out covered it up.  McQuery did his legal duty by reporting the rape to his superiors, but not his moral duty, which would be the call the police immediately and keep contacting the authorities until something was done.  Two years earlier, multiple Janitors saw Sandusky “performing oral sex on a young boy” but did nothing to stop it, nor reported it to police.

Paterno and the university officials rationalized the conduct, either because they didn’t believe it, didn’t want to believe it or wanted to protect their institution.  All the while, more kids continued to be raped.  The university, other coaches, Penn State players and people in the community heard rumors, but never did anything to follow up.  It was always someone else’s problem or it was rationalized away.

I truly believe that when the full story comes out, it’s going to be worse than anything we could imagine.  I think that people who knew about Sandusky’s “proclivities” will number in the 100s.  Yet nothing happened until ten years later, when Sandusky assaulted another young boy, who told his mother, who immediately called the police, sparking the current investigation.

So many people could have put an end to Sandusky’s pedophelia, but “didn’t want to rock the boat” or thought “it wasn’t that bad” or wanted to “protect themselves or their school.”  I truly hope that this horrible situation pushes more people to act when they witness criminal behavior.  These excuses should go out the window.  Do the right thing.  Anything less is morally reprehensible.  Remember, all it takes is one person doing the right thing and a horrible situation like this comes to an end much earlier.

Apparently My Entrepreneurial Roots Go Back a Few Generations

Schumacher Furs 1923, Click to enlarge

My Mom has been looking into our family history over the past year or two and sent me this advertisement from a newspaper in Cedarburg, WI from 1923.  The ad on the right hand side is for my great-grandmother’s fur store, advertising the best furs in the Milwaukee area.  Her brother, my great-uncle, set up trading posts in Alaska to cut out the middle man in the fur trade.  He then shipped his furs back to St. Louis, where he chose some of the best ones for his sister’s, my great grandmother’s, shop.

She shared the other half of the building with her husband, my great grandfather, who ran a painting and decorating business.  As my Mom put it “double entrepreneurs in the same shop!”  Maybe some of my entrepreneurial talents got passed down the generations?  Either way, I think it’s cool to learn about some family history.